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4. When to try harder and when to walk away.

The sunroof was open shining the early afternoon bight sun onto my newly red hair, my cup holder held the largest Slurpee I could find.
Slurpee’s are the key to my happiness.
In case you were wondering.

The disembodied voice blaring over the radio started talking about a list.

A list of 30 things every woman should have and know by the time they are 30.

Something struck me.
These are REAL, attainable things.
I found myself nodding along.

And while this list was written in 1997, I feel like it was written for me.
YES. I want to have and know these things. Not by tomorrow, not even by 30 but wow. Yes.

Secretly (except not so secretly because I just said it..) I want to write a post about each of these things.
My mind jumps at every one of these situations..

By 30, you should have …
1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.
6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age — and some money set aside to help fund it.
8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account — all of which nobody has access to but you.
9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.
10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra.
12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
13. The belief that you deserve it.
14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better.

By 30, you should know …
1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.
2. How you feel about having kids.
3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
4. When to try harder and when to walk away.
5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.
6. The names of the secretary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tailor in town.
7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.
8. Where to go — be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat — when your soul needs soothing.
9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents.
10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.
11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.
12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or not flossing for very long.
13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.
15. Why they say life begins at 30



  1. I’m 35 and have most of the second 15 but not so much of the first. :)

    If I had to choose between the two, I’d choose that second 15.

    Some of the first 15 I don’t care much about but there are a few in there I may just work on. Cordless drills can come in handy after all.


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