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Utah’s Archaic Surrogacy Laws..

Today, I feel like I’ve been socked in the gut.

Utah Surrogacy Law:

Utah Code Ann. §§ 78-45g-801 to -809 (2007)

Utah’s law is modeled after Part 8 of the Uniform Parentage Act of 2002. A gestational surrogacy agreement must be validated in court. The gestational surrogate must have had at least one prior pregnancy and delivery. She maintains control over all health-related decisions during the pregnancy. She may not use her own eggs. The intended mother must show that she is unable to carry a pregnancy or give birth. At least one intended parent must provide gametes. If the gestational surrogate is married, her husband’s sperm may not be used. The intended parents must be married and must undergo a home study. All parties must be at least 21 and must participate in counseling. There is a residence requirement of at least 90 days for either the gestational mother or the intended parents. The gestational surrogate may not be receiving Medicaid or other state assistance at the time she enters the agreement. Payment to the gestational surrogate is allowed but must be “reasonable.” An agreement that has not been validated is not enforceable, and parentage will be determined under the other parts of Utah’s Uniform Parentage Act.

According to Utah law the couple I carry a baby for MUST be legal married in the eyes of the state of Utah. Therefore, they must also be a heterosexual (straight) couple.

I would like you to also notice this law was written in 2007!!!! Only 4 years ago.

I feel like Utah is SO stuck in the 1950’s.

Since when do people have to be married / heterosexual to have a family?

(probably not the p.c. thing for the girl in the picture standing in front of the temple to say.. right??)

Not that my only dream was to carry a baby for a gay couple. But it is DEFINITELY part of my dream.  Just not all of my dream.

So, I will be matched with a married, straight couple, and that is MORE than okay with me. I am not set on carrying a child for one certain type of family. I am open to all of them. I just cant wait to meet them. No matter who they are, what they believe in, or where they’re from.

BUT .. I am a little upset that my state pushes such archaic rules on me.

One day.

One day, things will be different. Until then, I will continue to fight for  the collective “them.”